Tuesday, November 3, 2009

A "What would you do moment"?

There was a show on ABC called "What would you do"? and I loved watching it! I always thought if I was put in one of their many situations, I wouldn't hesitate to act boldly! But I hadn't been in that kind of situation...until today. Let me set the scene: It was a perfectly beautiful day at the park. Brenna and Cannon were playing to their hearts content. There were two very out of control boys, around 5 years old, that were creating chaos with everyone around them. I started watching them closely as they crept closer to Cannon. They got inches from his face and screamed as loud as they could. It scared Cannon, and I jumped up. I forcefully asked them to leave him alone. And they did...but found some new prey. It was, of course, another younger boy, maybe 3 or 4 years old. They would chase him around, yelling at him, and it quickly progressed into shoving the shredded tire ground cover down his pants, calling him names, and slapping him repeatedly in the face. At that point, I walked over to the boys, told them to stop and that I was going to speak to their moms. I had been watching the parents leading up to this, and had determined that their "guardians" were the two perfectly manicured blond bimbo's sitting at a picnic table. I approached them.

Me: (trying to remain polite) Are those your boys [fill in descriptions]?

Barbies: Yes... (looking confused why I would be speaking to them)

Me: I wanted to let you know that I have asked them to stop screaming in my two year old's face. And have had to stop them from shoving stuff down another little boys pants, and saw them slap his face repeatedly.....(pausing for some kind of response)...

Barbies: (blank stares)

Me:....And I don't feel comfortable being them one who has to keep intervening...and I wanted to make sure you were aware of what has been happening....so you could be the ones to stop them....

Barbies: (blank stares)

So I say thank you, and walk away. And as I walk away, I can hear them snickering! Seriously? I was questioning my actions until two moms came up and thanked me, and another dad wanted to make sure that his son wasn't apart of it. I felt great! From my "confrontation" on, I did not see the moms move from their seats. I did not see them say one admonition to the boys. They completely ignored what I had brought to their attention. But the best part of the entire day came later. When I was close to Cannon climbing on the playground, both of the boys came up to me separately and said "sorry". I thanked them for apologizing, and said that they should have fun, but what they were doing was wrong and upset the kids. And a few minutes after that, one of them came and showed me his Happy Meal toy! I am so glad I said something, and all the kids had a great time after that. But I was happy to think as I drove home, that if the "What would you do?" camera crew came out to surprise me, I wouldn't have to say "I wish I said something".

7 comments:

Wendy said...

Excellent story and excellent handling of the situation!!!

So did Ryan ever get the stuff out of his pants?!?

Rachel and Todd said...

You know, I had a similar experience where I was at a playground and a group of boys, about 10 years old, were chasing a couple of girls screaming in their faces, "Chip! Chip! Chip!" (Whatever that meant). The girls just kept walking away trying to ignore them. I wondered if they liked the attention until I heard them say multiple times, "Leave me alone!" I looked around and parents were just gabbing away, and although the kids were rather loud no one really took notice.

I felt a little dumb doing it, but I got in their path and asked the girl if she liked them following her and she said no and I then told the guys pointedly that they needed to stop harassing the girls. They stopped and the guys went off giggling. I was glad I did it, and I wondered why other parents didn't do anything.

I remember a movie I watched when I was an advocate for school kids and it was about bullying. It talked about by-standers, even adults, who hesitate to stand up for the kid being bullied. I think there are a couple reasons why kids and adults don't step in and intervene, but they made the point that if adults don't intervene then they are sending the message that the bullying is okay.

Anyway, you did the right thing! I'm proud of you!! And you know what, I bet those bully-boys respected you (in a way). Kids feel secure when they know they have limits.

Tori Orgill said...

you go girl!

jeanine said...

You are awesome! I don't know if I could have been so brave... I hope so though.

Arthur V. / Gene D. W. said...

Hurrah for the mommy of our priceless grandchildren. We pray for you daily and love you. Give kisses to our protected babies for us....Brenna is almost 6!

Waggoner Family said...

I am very proud of you!

Ollie and Floyd said...

Good for you, Sarah! I love that show, too, and always imagine that I'd have the courage to act even though I know I am the "stand- idlely-by-and-regret-it-later type". Nice job - you set a great example for Cannon and Brenna, too.